My bendi (okra/ladyfinger) fruit bud after the flower finished blooming.

After taking care closely on my bendi (okra/ladyfinger), I just notice that the fruit will come after the blooming flower wither.

The blooming bendi (okra/ladyfinger) flower this morning.

The flower already closed up when I come back home in the evening.

The look of bendi (okra/ladyfinger) fruit underneath the withered flower, from other plant.

New lesson learned from daily observation. 

Flower buds→blooming flower→flower wither and produce bendi (okra/ladyfinger).

Therefore, don't be sad if your bendi (okra/ladyfinger) flower withered. That just means that you will get bendi (okra/ladyfinger) fruit soon.